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Verbal and written responses to the idea of polygamy are presented below: Kurt Hi I read some of your pros and cons to poligamy and I have a few viewpoints to make to you. First off there are good people out there interestes in this type of relationship but due to the legalities of it oyu won;t hear from them on the matter. It is all about the representation polygamists will show on there behalf. Homosexuality was a vewry taboo thing and it has changes just in my generation with states looking to legalize the military accepting it. This practice is specifically prohibited in the bible but they stood up for the freedom they wanted and now they are on tv shows entertaining america. Another regards the legality of it. Why does the government have the right to govern matters of the heart telling who I an love and how many. why is there a law against me wanting to be a good father to a butload of kids and a good husband to more than one yet theres is no law to punish those that go out and and lie and cheat on there wives behind there backs and bring home fatal diseases to them. furthermore therea re many bisexual couples in the country who go out all the time and pick up a third for a fling but no law to punish them for it unless they use the magic word poligamy. I hear people talk all the time about the abuse that happens in a polygamy relationship but how do you know there is a higher occurence of it there than normal family lives I would say there is less because most child abusers are drug adicts or alchaholics and we haven't ban alchahol yet nor do we see many polygamous cocaine users. I know that bad things happen to people i see it everyday but we can't pin it in one group of people no more than any other. we shoudl indeed punich the crimes of these people the domestic violence, child abuse, welfare fraud, tax evation but you cannot take away the freedomn of some one to have a different lifestyle than you or you take away the very principle of this country principles which i has a mlitary member fight and risk my life to uphold from radical extremists like bin laden who would force his view points on a nation through persecution. did he start opposing polygamy and eventually turn it into lack of women rights all the way down to covering therre faces in public? he had to start somewhere right? I am not saying that everyone should be polygamous I am just saying it should be a choice for people to make a personal basis like homosexuality bi-sexuality monogomyespecially when there are no laws in place to infedility and in teh case of hiv i woudl say cheating and passing it on to your partner involuntary manslaughter but that isn't bad polygamy is. Safiya I have been thinking a great deal about polygamy. I am a woman that is getting a divorce after spending seventeen years in a monogamous relationship. It didn't work. I am now getting a divorce.I do not want other men. Yet, I am thinking that if my future husband should desire another wife I would like to think that I would be more open minded that I was in the past. I know that there are challenges in this relationship as with any other. I would like to get over thinking about him being sexual with some one else and enjoying it. I hope that I would not have to experience feeling as if I wasn't special to him anymore just because he would be in a new relationship. And if both us women had children from him, I certainly do not look forward to seeing any differences that he would make out of our children. I don't know these are just thoughts for now. Darlene, currently in polygamous relationship I was reading your views on polygamy and I agree with you 100%. I am currently involved in a polygamous relationship and like you said, it does have its ups and downs. We are a family that is filled with love for one another and we show it. We don't discuss our relationship openly in public for the obvious reasons, but it does work for us. There are two women involved here and I work while the other stays at home and takes care of the homefront. Our husband also works...I work for him. We are a very committed family that cannot envision life without the other two. Our spirituality and positive energy is a constant for the others involved. Mary, accountant, single, 40s I'll share anything, but not my man. Serial monogamy is the way to go. OK there's not a lot of good men around and you might find yourself occasionally dating a deadbeat or an alcoholic or a philanderer. But to consciously accept that your man can have another woman? Forget it! Sarah, lawyer, divorced, 30s: With 3 young children and an a demented ex-husband, I suppose I should consider the interests of the children and be flexible in thinking what options are available to me with regard to men friends. I see that logically speaking polygamy does make some sense, but I really couldn't countenance it for myself. I need to consider my own future as well as that of my kids, and polygamy just doesn't offer me the lifestyle choice I'm looking for. What I see as the only realistic choice is that I marry someone handsome and rich and overlook his occasional adultery. Just as he would overlook mine. A whole range of people, married-with-children, 30s: Of course we're concerned about the plight of single mothers and their kids. It's a disaster for their kids, they don't have the balanced outlook you get from two parents. In most cases TV is the daddy. The mother doesn't usually work or works in a low-paid job, so there's not a lot of money to spend on the kids and their education. But what can you do? It's not our problem and the answer isn't polygamy. If it was, people would be doing it. Speaking of kids, take a look at how well our son did on his last exams... Frankie, Taxi driver, married, 30s Polygamy is a barbaric, old-fashioned idea. Why do we need it today, when all you need is a good marriage? What you've got to understand is that marriage is all about trust. My wife trusts me not to play around, and I trust her to do the same. Because there's trust in our marriage there's no need for her to check up on me. And anyway, you can't expect a man not to have a bit on the side every now and then. Like when a wife is pregnant, you can't expect him to go without for all those months. So we don't need polygamy, mate, things are fine the way they are. Charlie, plumber, married, 50s: No point explaining to a woman that you want to have more wives, just marry her and when you get rich, have some girlfriends on the side. Take your girlfriends to the south of France, so your wife won't know. Make sure to put your money into secret bank accounts so that your wife can't get at it. No point telling her your plans, it's not like she's going to tell you hers. Paul, retired, married, 60s: Now I'm very open-minded but people who endorse polygamy are going to burn in hell. Being married to one woman is very difficult, let me tell you. So it follows that being married to two women would be quite impossible. People should live their life as I have done. Find yourself a pretty girl from a good family and promise her the world. Then after you're married she'll come to realise she didn't want that ostentatious lifestyle anyway. Work hard and send your kids to the best private schools. You and your children will contribute enough to the welfare of others by being their role models. Joseph, company director, married, 40s: I'm fed up with my wife because the only conversations we seem to have involve her asking me for money and me giving it to her. I suppose I could have an affair but I'm scared that if the wife finds out she'll take me to the cleaners and I'll lose a lot of what I've worked so hard to build. I'm also a man of my word. I've made a committment to my wife and I'd feel bad about throwing her out just because she's become tired and cranky and disinterested in sex. It took me a while to get my head around it, but I'm starting to like this idea of polygamy. I don't think women are going to go for it, but if you find any who do, I'm interested. Very interested. Samuel, psychiatrist, single, 30s: I had a number of concerns initially but the more I think about this idea the more I love it. Now if only we could get women to agree. To tell you the truth, I'm having trouble getting even one woman to go out with me, much less several. Women seem to prefer bad boys. Jane, school teacher, single, 20s: Polygamy? If it works for woman as well as men, it sounds good. Not that we need to make it formal or anything. Being very good-looking I've got several boyfriends, and it works great. I don't think I would actually tell any of them that I was seeing other people though, why spoil something that works? Robert Lambeth Although I have never been in the practice myself nor do I want to, I have a brother that engaged in the practice of Polygamy and my relationship with others who also live this belief has always been a positive influnce in my life. I have a great deal of respect for anyone who can live a polygmist lifestyle and truly believe in the principles the religion instills in it's members. I am a vigorous defender of the fact that if a man and woman choose to live in this type of relationship and invite others into their family who also appreciate the values which is carried out in the religious practice. Then they should be protected by the Constitution's first Amendment right of Religous freedom. I feel that when the law was passed in the 1860's it was done by a group of religious biggots who believed they were the only religious groups with true religious doctrine and wanted to stop anyelse from practicing belief which opposed their own. I am currently doing some historical research into the feelings and prejudices which surrounded the political arena prior to the abolishment of Polygamy in Constitutional law. I feel that going to court showing the prejudice which incompassed the issue at the time of it's abolishment and has continued to shroud it over the years, and brought out the discrimination which exist around the issue could sway the courts of the land. It was pure discrimination which got it abolished in the 1860's and the discrimination continues to this day.
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